The following is a 25-step comprehensive guide to taking responsibilities in your life and the importance of responsibility. This can help your job, your family life, and much more!
1. Realize you need to take initiative. If you truly want to be treated as adults are treated, then it’s important to take the initiative. Sometimes that means doing things that others in your household don’t expect, for example, doing the dishes, sweeping the floor(s), getting a gift for someone, etc. There is a wide range of things that people can take initiative to do. It all starts with you. If you keep doing things only if you’re told or asked to do, then you’re not taking the initiative. It’s when you do things without being told or asked to do. If you’re used to being in a household where everything is taken care of, then you need to change some things inside of you to start doing things in the household.
2. There are limits and boundaries to everything. Know what limits and boundaries exist for a specific thing, person, etc., and follow them strictly. Being responsible to people’s boundaries is important to gaining respect and admiration from people.
3. Don’t expect people to be responsible for you. People commonly don’t mind helping you out and being responsible to you, but people don’t like being responsible for you. Therefore, it’s important that you don’t rely on people to do things for you all the time. Expecting handouts all the time is a one-way ticket to losing friends, family, and courteous people who like to help other people (good Samaritans). Your actions should highlight that you are responsible for yourself and independent of anyone else.
4. Don’t be codependent on your spouse, friends, or family. If it comes to the fact that you’re continually relying on another person to provide for your needs, answer your questions, and help make decisions for you, it’s going to end up bad. What happens when people are codependent on one another is that if that person is gone, disappears, etc., then whom do you have? No one but yourself! Don’t let yourself become so dependent on another person that you can’t take care of yourself when that person is not there. You need to be able to take care of yourself in a way, so if that other person is not there, you survive physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
5. Find your dependence on God to provide your needs, because He can and will help. Don’t expect handouts, but expect blessings to happen as a result of your worship to God. He knows your heart and can tell you what you need to know and do to make your own life better.
6. People who break rules are scum. People who break friendships and families are lower than scum. Always be good to the people who’re close to you, as well as people not close.
7. Think before you speak and before you do something. It’s best to know what you’re going to say or do, and what the possible consequences are for that action. If you get in trouble, yourself is the only one to blame. So, make sure to be responsible for your mouth and your actions.
8. Your spouse needs help usually. Always ask what you can do to help and take on more responsibility. If your spouse doesn’t need help, then find things to do to help. Random acts of kindness help people more than you think.
9. Taking on more responsibility is not a bad thing, and you should not fear failure or embarrassment. We all learn from our mistakes and grow. We all have dreams, and it takes a lot of failure sometimes to reach success in a dream.
10. Take the time to learn new skills all the time. If you desire to become better at cooking, ask someone whom you know is a good cook. If you desire to do laundry, because you know it’ll help the household, then learn how to do laundry. Know-how of things is a great tool, because it makes you more independent and stable for yourself.
11. Realize that doing things responsibility takes good motivation. If you motivate yourself to do better at everything, you will succeed in responsibility. Realize that being motivated involves good self-confidence. This can be reached by first loving yourself, and then loving other people. When any of these lack, it’s hard to be motivated. Your success can only be reached by motivation. So, get on the ball and stay on it!
12. Be good to your current responsibilities, so you can get new, challenging responsibilities.
13. Always be optimistic about life (thinking positive about all outcomes). You’re not a helpless victim who can’t do anything about their circumstances. Rather, you are someone who can fight for your situation.
14. Learn to be accountable for your deeds. If you do something bad, be responsible and stand up to say “I did it” or “It was my fault”. People who lie, deceive, and are dishonest are scum. Don’t be a casualty of deceptive lifestyles.
15. Do not be selfish. Think less of yourself, and more of others. Others’ needs are more important than your own needs. So, being needy is not the way to go. But rather, realize that once you take care of yourself for the day, other people matter. Don’t be so focused on yourself day-to-day, and end up missing out on affirming friendship, care, and love for other people. People need each other. If we give up on each other, what do we have: an empty life.
16. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. We all make mistakes. Just be wise enough not to make big mistakes, but rather learn from the small ones. Remember, small problems that go unnoticed become bigger problems. Don’t let small problems become big.
17. Don’t let people down. If you commit to something, follow through with it – even if it hurts!
18. Tackle what is in front of you every time! When you are given responsibility, do it right away. Not only will the assigner of the responsibility feel good about it, but you will feel a sense of accomplishment that you just made that other person happy.
19. Stop making excuses for yourself. If you’re a responsible person, you think ahead of your actions or words (see #7). So, if something happens, and you’re responsible for it, then the excuse is dead. Excuses are just dead reasons given, so people don’t have to take responsibility for their words or actions.
20. Don’t be forgetful about anything. Always keep in mind everything that you have to get done and work on things one at a time. If anything, keep a list of things to do, so you don’t forget. Forgetting things can make you believe that you’re forgetful, and can cause much more problems than it solves. Being forgetful is a troublemaking quality that no one should have (unless if they have issues that cause forgetfulness).
21. Inactivity leads to irresponsibility. Do something productive every day. Only be inactive in your free time, which is to be only a certain small window of time each day. Otherwise, always be doing something productive. So, if you don’t have anything to do, you find something to do. If there’s truly nothing to do, then read, study, or talk to someone.
22. Start small and don’t overdo it. Being more responsible takes time. But, never be lazy. There’s always something to do. Where there’s a will, there’s a way, so to speak.
23. Know what time limits are and set them. So, if you’re out with family or friends, set a time limit to go back home or leave. This ensures you keep in control of your own life.
24. If you shift the responsibility onto other people, don’t expect to learn anything in life. You’ll become tactless, lazy, and dumb.
25. Remember, that in the end, what you accomplish isn’t the most important. But, it’s the people you made happy as a result of your accomplishment(s).
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